love compatibility, romance compatibilityAre romance compatibility and love compatibility the same? Well I’ve been married for four years now I am inclined to think that they are different. Of course any loving relationship needs an element of romance. Nevertheless you can have romance compatibility with someone only to find out that you do not really love them in the end.
I had relationship with a man seven years older than me back when I was twenty-one years old. The man in question knew just what to say and do to make me feel like the most important woman in the world. The first months of the relationship were highly romantic. However once the period of infatuation was over with and I began to see the man behind the mask I realized there was no love compatibility at all. The man turned out to be very selfish, abusive and somewhat sociopathic. He had romanced me with his glib charm but the real person was an individual I couldn’t even like, much less love.
Conversely when I met my husband I don’t know that we had romance compatibility in the initial stages. We actually started off being friends who socialized together in a group and I didn’t think of him in that way. Then slowly his personality began to grow on me and we started a romantic relationship. The relationship became more romantic is it developed. What I definitely have with my husband is love compatibility. We know each other’s faults but love anyway. We also do things for each other because we want to and not because we feel obliged. We can talk openly about anything and we have honor and respect for each other too. My husband feels like the other half of me, and vice versa. We will eventually be that sweet old couple you see strolling hand-in-hand together in the park. To me love compatibility is much more important than romance.